Preheat your oven to 400°F.
Prepare an 8 x 8 inch or 9 x 9 inch deep cake pan lightly coated with cooking spray or butter. Set aside.
In a large skillet, cook bacon over medium high heat 5 to 7 minutes or until crisp. Drain on paper towels. Crumble or dice and set aside. Reserve some bacon to sprinkle on top of casserole, at the end, if desired. Do not discard grease.
In the same large skillet, with bacon grease, over medium heat, cook ground meat and onion together, stirring occasionally, until meat is no longer pink. Drain if desired and return to skillet, (I never drain it.)
Sprinkle with flour and stir until flour is absorbed and blended in.
Stir in Worcestershire sauce, pepper, garlic and onion soup mix. Once blended in remove from heat.
Add 1 cup shredded cheese, canned tomatoes, bacon, ketchup, mustard, and relish and jalapeno. Taste and add salt pepper as needed.
Spoon mixture into prepared casserole dish and flatten until even and smooth.
Sprinkle ½ cup shredded cheese across the top, if desired.
Arrange the partially thawed tater tots in an even layer over flattened mixture. A 9 x 9 inch pan will need 63 tots or about ½ of a 2 pound bag.
Bake for 25-30 minutes.
Remove from oven and sprinkle remaining bacon and then ½ cup cheese (or add even more) on top of the tater tots.
Change oven temperature to broil.
Return pan to the oven for an additional 3-4 minutes, or until the cheese is melted and golden brown.
Let casserole stand for 5-10 minutes.
Serve with a sprinkling of green onions, pickles and tomatoes on a piece of lettuce or bed of lettuce, if desired.